Sunday, June 27, 2010

Reading Group: Working with Alfie Kohn

Today's reading: http://www.alfiekohn.org/phpnews_1-3-0/news.php?action=fullnews&id=6

What are your thoughts?

3 comments:

Stephanie @ Confessions of a Trophy Wife said... [Reply to comment]

The statement against "one-size fits all" parenting/discipline was thought provoking for me. I feel like the canned answers to "if your child does x, then you should do y" is similar to sleep training (which I'm not a fan of). I feel like both things don't take into account your individual child's wants and needs.

Also, point number 10: Love them unconditionally, I feel is most important. In my opinion a lack of connection and a child's lack of knowing and feeling unconditional love is what ultimately leads to disrespect and negative behavior.

Thanks for posting the article. It really got me thinking!

Jenn said... [Reply to comment]

I really appreciated the advice in this article because you hear a lot of lip service about avoiding punishment/reward but not a lot on what to do. I liked how he reminded you to ascribe the best possible intentions to children's behavior. A lot of the time when they do something we don't like, we equate it with them "being bad" instead of just being a kid.

Jess said... [Reply to comment]

I'm actually reading his book "Unconditional Parenting" right now! The punishment/reward system must be completely ingrained in me because although I agree with his philosophy, I still find myself challenged by not parenting based on behaviorism. I am determined to give it my all, though, because I truly want my kids to feel loved unconditionally.

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