tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post8719231651853412118..comments2024-02-25T04:19:51.451-06:00Comments on Connected Mom: Reading Group: Working with Alfie KohnUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-86084317632735738432010-07-01T14:19:13.291-05:002010-07-01T14:19:13.291-05:00I'm actually reading his book "Unconditio...I'm actually reading his book "Unconditional Parenting" right now! The punishment/reward system must be completely ingrained in me because although I agree with his philosophy, I still find myself challenged by not parenting based on behaviorism. I am determined to give it my all, though, because I truly want my kids to feel loved unconditionally.Jesshttp://www.cakeandcup.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-56852669389581374752010-06-27T15:21:55.599-05:002010-06-27T15:21:55.599-05:00I really appreciated the advice in this article be...I really appreciated the advice in this article because you hear a lot of lip service about avoiding punishment/reward but not a lot on what to do. I liked how he reminded you to ascribe the best possible intentions to children's behavior. A lot of the time when they do something we don't like, we equate it with them "being bad" instead of just being a kid.Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06056576922589061600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-16930279839606002162010-06-27T15:04:15.908-05:002010-06-27T15:04:15.908-05:00The statement against "one-size fits all"...The statement against "one-size fits all" parenting/discipline was thought provoking for me. I feel like the canned answers to "if your child does x, then you should do y" is similar to sleep training (which I'm not a fan of). I feel like both things don't take into account your individual child's wants and needs. <br /><br />Also, point number 10: Love them unconditionally, I feel is most important. In my opinion a lack of connection and a child's lack of knowing and feeling unconditional love is what ultimately leads to disrespect and negative behavior.<br /><br />Thanks for posting the article. It really got me thinking!Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01281152742477496810noreply@blogger.com