I think one of the key things to remember in this is that you say no in a gentle manner, not a teasing manner. When you're "Playing the no game" I think it would be very easy to take a teasing tone which might infuriate a child more than a stern no. So remaining gentle instead of teasing would seem to be the challenge to me.
I also think it could easily turn into a mixed message if you use too much of a teasing tone. I suppose the no game wouldn't always be appropriate when you really need to get no across.
I tried to do this this morning, and it was HARD! I naturally jump to a stern no, but I did realize that being so stern wasn't necessary in that situation. Being more cognizant of how I say no made me realize that there needed to be levels to my "no's." I can't use the same tone for him jumping on the bed and him trying to stick his finger in a light socket. Once again, it's really important to be aware of how our tone, language, and behavior guides our children.
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I think one of the key things to remember in this is that you say no in a gentle manner, not a teasing manner. When you're "Playing the no game" I think it would be very easy to take a teasing tone which might infuriate a child more than a stern no. So remaining gentle instead of teasing would seem to be the challenge to me.
I also think it could easily turn into a mixed message if you use too much of a teasing tone. I suppose the no game wouldn't always be appropriate when you really need to get no across.
I tried to do this this morning, and it was HARD! I naturally jump to a stern no, but I did realize that being so stern wasn't necessary in that situation. Being more cognizant of how I say no made me realize that there needed to be levels to my "no's." I can't use the same tone for him jumping on the bed and him trying to stick his finger in a light socket. Once again, it's really important to be aware of how our tone, language, and behavior guides our children.
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