My mom had her cats declawed, all the vets where I live declaw cats, even the vet we went to told me it was a tiny procedure, and he wouldn't even miss his claws.
Instead of researching myself, I believed other people. The vet was the one doing the procedure, he is the same vet my mom uses, and I trusted him. I didn't think he would be doing something that would hurt my cat.
He came home, and was doing pretty well. By Saturday he was limping since he was awake more often, and I began to wonder if there was something wrong or something I should have known before I had him in for the surgery.
I googled a bit and found out that declawing is the equivalent of taking off my fingernail and cutting my finger off to the top knuckle. I had no idea.
I am a strong advocate for making informed decisions for you family, whether it is pregnancy, birth, circumcision, breastfeeding, vaccinations and so much more. I learned that I needed to research things myself after I had my daughter and all that happened with her, but in wanting my cat to stop clawing me, I didn't think of research for him.
In my ignorance and stupidity, I have given my cat a limp that won't ever go away. I have done something I can't ever take back. I think of if my daughter had been a boy and how we would have had him circumcised because I didn't know any better. I now know better about that, but instead, I made the same mistake on an animal that I treat like a child. We got him after my last loss, and he has been one thing that helped me heal.
Instead of advocating for him and being smart like I am with my children, I turned into a hypocrite.
From him, I have learned that I need to be informed on every part of my life, for everyone in my life, even my animals. I am always so wary around doctors because of what I have gone through with them, but I had no reason to not trust a vet. Now, too late, I know better.
Because of this situation, I have learned so much. Because of this decision, I have learned I need to research everything I do. Some decisions won't have the fallout like this one, but every decision I make for my family, I need to do because I am informed and can make a decision based on information I learned myself, not what someone told me.
He will have a limp forever, and I will forever have this decision over my head. I will always feel guilty for what I did to my kitten, and I will never let it happen to any of my animals again. I would rather be scratched day and night than deal with the guilt of knowing I could have made a different decision.
Informed choices need not only be for ourselves and our children. In every aspect of our lives, we need to know the positives and negatives and make a decision based on what is best for our families. And for my family, that includes our animals.
I wouldn't have an elective procedure done to my child, and now I know that I will not have it done on my animals, too.
Too little too late.