tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post8277633125053944884..comments2024-02-25T04:19:51.451-06:00Comments on Connected Mom: My Response To 5 Common Myths About Attachment ParentingUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-46601198236316437892011-04-01T17:26:02.456-05:002011-04-01T17:26:02.456-05:00I was unaware of, and therefore not intending to p...I was unaware of, and therefore not intending to practice, attachment parenting. I came about doing all those things--breastfeeding, co-sleeping, wearing my baby, refusing to CIO, etc.--because they came naturally. Before I knew it, I discovered I was attachment parenting. And I'm so glad I am!Francescahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01331305064233490917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-66595108108838165522011-03-30T19:43:45.006-05:002011-03-30T19:43:45.006-05:00heh. wow. I haven't finished, but the charge t...heh. wow. I haven't finished, but the charge that it's anti-feminist is ridiculous, considering big attachment parenting proponents were William and Martha Sears, and they provided multiple suggestions to include the father...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-42013898232625048652011-01-28T03:48:53.590-06:002011-01-28T03:48:53.590-06:00Hehe I am a breast feeding mom, but there are time...Hehe I am a breast feeding mom, but there are times I do give a bottle, I always felt guilty. But I am really appreciate reading this. The other day I fed her with a bottle almost the whole day--such a stressful day--and she looked at me the same way as if she were breastfeeding. i think they "KNOW" and bond either way. Yes, there is that touch that you get with breastfeeding, but I know that they bond with you even if there's a bottle!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15042357382386344456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-85290503395571551522011-01-10T19:19:57.700-06:002011-01-10T19:19:57.700-06:00YES! Thank you for this post - its wonderful . I f...YES! Thank you for this post - its wonderful . I found myself really shaking my head ::YES:: to the independent and helicopter parent points. I have had that conversations with many people & you hit it right on the head. ♥Devan @ Accustomed Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14542655336185397634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-22141224528541239632010-12-30T12:38:39.166-06:002010-12-30T12:38:39.166-06:00@Alison
I agree! I am sure there are a million ...@Alison <br /><br />I agree! I am sure there are a million myths like these about every parenting style under the sun. I am sure I even hold some of them to be true myself! <br /><br />Thanks for reading!Julian@connectedmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12934165855070000724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-72212192539271167652010-12-29T08:58:20.151-06:002010-12-29T08:58:20.151-06:00Well put, I totally agree with you. It's sad ...Well put, I totally agree with you. It's sad that in this society we judge so much. We judge every parenting style, and its really not ok. WHy are we so quick to judge another's way of raising their children (unless of course there is real harm being done)? <br />www.themomeami.comAlison, Champ, Ryland, Natalie, And Butahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00137487411581373917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-14699217551121301542010-12-28T22:35:48.215-06:002010-12-28T22:35:48.215-06:00@Customer
The difference is in the biology & ...@Customer<br /><br />The difference is in the biology & instincts of a breastfeeding pair.<br /><br />In short (& there is more to it, and would be happy to find some more info for you if you wanted) because mother & baby are biologically aware of one another in a way that non breastfeeding pairs aren't, their sleeping cycles of light & deep sleep actually sync up through the night.<br /><br />Also the actual act of breastfeeding itself naturally puts mom & baby into a safe sleep position with baby at the breast & below pillow level and mother's arms & legs curled around in a protective embrace.<br /><br /> I personally believe that with proper safety precautions and a strong attachment/awareness of your baby a non-breastfeeding pair can safely bed share. But I am not a sleep expert & I would encourage parents to do their own research & make those decisions for themselves.Julian@connectedmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12934165855070000724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-81438938645901459012010-12-28T19:57:53.953-06:002010-12-28T19:57:53.953-06:00" You can still co-sleep (Though there are sa..." You can still co-sleep (Though there are safety concerns that I would suggest be fully researched when contemplating bed sharing with a non breastfed baby)."<br /><br />Why is there a difference in the safety concerns?Every Baby Wearshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05840297789612469324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-55460713014547206852010-12-28T19:05:16.243-06:002010-12-28T19:05:16.243-06:00@soccermommy I am sorry that was not my intent. I ...@soccermommy I am sorry that was not my intent. I actually DO concern myself with chemicals and when and how they come into contact with my child. <br /><br />What I don't do is micro manage absolutely everything my child does or touches, or everyone he speaks to. <br /><br />I choose to use natural cleaners on my home and buy as much organic produce as we can afford to, we avoid convenience foods and artificial additives at all costs. I prefer to use products made from natural and untreated materials when possible. but when we are at a friend's house who doesn't do these things I still let him eat the food and crawl on the floor. I am not going to forbit him a romp in the park because my city uses pestisides to control mosquito populations. I am certainly not going to tell my child that he can't do X,Y,Z because of unseen chemicals that could hurt him, at least, not before he was old and mature enough to understand what that meant without it freaking him out. <br /><br />I would prefer to encourage my local government to adopt more health friendly pest control practices. I would prefer to vote for politicians who will do more to control the amount and types of chemicals that could make it to my child in the first place, and mandate that product labeling be made clearer for people wishing to avoid harsh chemicals in their homes. I prefer to support organizations that are commited to environmentally sustainable practices. In short I prefer to DO something instead of scaring my child and limiting his experiences in the world.<br /><br />My point is that you can be concerned about these things and do your best to limit your child's contact with them and meet your child's need for a safe environment WITHOUT helicopter parenting.Julian@connectedmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12934165855070000724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-10267201986118779882010-12-28T18:28:00.321-06:002010-12-28T18:28:00.321-06:00A lot of this I agree with, but I found that bit a...A lot of this I agree with, but I found that bit about protecting your children from chemicals being grouped in with helicopter parenting was a bit off-putting and honestly a little bit of an attack toward a group of people who are informed enough to protect their children from chemicals in their food. That is in fact anticipating your child's needs - your child does not need chemicals or anything for that matter which may contribute to disease in your child's life now or later.<br /><br />A little harsh? No, I think a lot harsh and really coming across as pretty uninformed about the impact that these things you can't pronounce have on your child.<br /><br />If you're going to give it your best with AP, why stop there? We still have to protect them while we have the ability to provide what they eat.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-60793208015179877022010-12-28T18:26:15.517-06:002010-12-28T18:26:15.517-06:00Thanks for the wonderful post! I know that Attach...Thanks for the wonderful post! I know that Attachment parenting was absolutely the right thing for me and my baby. I truly believe that because of that the bond between me and my child was strengthened and she is so well adjusted and happy as a toddler!Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18082140881202211661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-53391718570167671852010-12-28T14:48:48.852-06:002010-12-28T14:48:48.852-06:00Great! I hope they find it informative!
I think t...Great! I hope they find it informative!<br /><br />I think that the idea of 'spoiling' our children is one of the most commonly held myths about Attachment Parenting. It's tough for people to accept that what they once knew to be totally true about children because that's just the way they were raised or taught, is actually not true.Julian@connectedmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12934165855070000724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-53255498322889868582010-12-28T14:07:08.908-06:002010-12-28T14:07:08.908-06:00This was a wonderful read! I printed it to give to...This was a wonderful read! I printed it to give to my mother and mother in law since they think I'm crazy and spoiling my children!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com