tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post7935150261466524539..comments2024-02-25T04:19:51.451-06:00Comments on Connected Mom: Me and the In-Laws: Letting Time do the TellingUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-85686971722145486312011-05-21T18:03:25.327-05:002011-05-21T18:03:25.327-05:00Thanks for a great post Tara!
It took me a few m...Thanks for a great post Tara! <br /><br />It took me a few months of head butting to realize that if I just let time do the talking the nay-sayers would eventually go away. or take their comments elsewear when they say that what we were doing was working. <br /><br />I wish i'd gotten the 2 year break in between though! lolJulian@connectedmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12934165855070000724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-59027920124564483932011-05-21T16:16:08.879-05:002011-05-21T16:16:08.879-05:00Thank you! What a beautiful comment! Thanks for sh...Thank you! What a beautiful comment! Thanks for sharing!Tarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04123785918632054720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-62317527241620836662011-05-21T10:41:53.712-05:002011-05-21T10:41:53.712-05:00Great post! My mom was the renegade in her family....Great post! My mom was the renegade in her family. She saw some families in her church, that didn't hit their kids, and were cuddly and understanding with their children. So, as a young child, she made a decision that when she had kids, she'd raise them like that, instead of the way she was being raised.<br /><br />She got all kinds of dire predictions about what would become of me, when she announced that they had decided not to spank. She actually had to leave one visit, when her mother decided to take it upon herself to do the spanking (I was 9 months at the time), and we never went back until she promised to never lay a hand on me again.<br /><br />They were sufficiently convinced later on, when I was the best behaved child of the bunch. I actually became like the Pied Piper, and all of my cousins followed me into whatever fun, creative, quiet play I came up with, during our visits. The family was amazed at how well behaved all the kids were, during our visits.<br /><br />I'd learned early on, that if I didn't want to see the disturbing sight of my little cousins getting spanked, I'd best keep them busy doing quiet things. <br /><br />Later, all those cousins grew up and started coming to my Mom for advice about parenting. There were so many of them, she decided to give them all classes. We met once a month, and I took care of the kids, while she taught them everything she had learned from all the books she'd read, and tried out that worked for us.<br /><br />Those cousins' kids have grown up, and so many of them are so grateful to my Mom, for helping our family break the cycle of violence and rigidity in our family.<br /><br />So, it's true that time will tell, and when it does, it can have a real impact on the rest of the world!JMedinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03018714449097173008noreply@blogger.com