tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post5829569984810610836..comments2024-02-25T04:19:51.451-06:00Comments on Connected Mom: Cesareans Don't Just Scar Your SkinUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-69682363750898755932011-04-13T10:49:09.556-05:002011-04-13T10:49:09.556-05:00Thanks for your reply! Really well-written!! The...Thanks for your reply! Really well-written!! There are days that I hate the experience I went through, too. I guess with everything, it depends on the day and your mood. Recovery is a slow process and I'm glad that there is a safe place for people to express their feelings. :)Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02688719514346028111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-34138316090538858092011-04-12T17:48:55.110-05:002011-04-12T17:48:55.110-05:00Becky, that is wonderful!
The thing is, most moms...Becky, that is wonderful!<br /><br />The thing is, most moms that have cesareans are so grateful that they and their babies are alive. No one is disputing that point. BUT, regardless of whether you wanted a natural birth or not, a cesarean is hard to deal with. Not only is there pain after the baby is born making it hard to move around and feel up to taking care of a newborn, but there is the emotional and mental disappointment and pain because of what you went through.<br /><br />Many moms wind up alone in the OR being stitched up because their husband is with the baby. Many hate that they are treated like a piece of meat as they are cut open and sewed together again. You aren't talked to, you aren't even acknowledged while this procedure is happening to you.<br /><br />I didn't see my daughter for 8 hours after my surgery. For all I knew, they could have switched her with someone else's baby. Bonding with your child is hard, especially if you don't even believe that they could be yours. It took me months to finally love her the way I should have.<br /><br />Some people are proud of their scars, like you. Others need a very long recovery to even think about what happened, like me.<br /><br />They need to know that they are allowed to hate the day their child was born if that is how they want to feel, but still be so grateful to be alive and have a healthy child.<br /><br />And also, comparing things to 100 years ago is always just a moot thing. The maternal mortality and morbidity rate is higher now than it was in the 1980's. With all the advancements in medicine, women should not still be dying, especially compared to just 30 years ago.Kayce Pearsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09894465019118859309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-75575267199497893482011-04-12T16:08:19.403-05:002011-04-12T16:08:19.403-05:00I don't want to be confrontational, but it'...I don't want to be confrontational, but it's hard putting two and two together here. I read many natural parenting blogs and, overall, women who had cesareans have a hard time dealing with the fact that they didn't have a natural birth. I only have one child right now, and she was delivered via c-section. I'm not sure if it was a necessary operation or not, but I'm grateful that I live today because who knows what would happen 100 years ago? <br /><br />Everyone deals with disappointment differently. I realize that and people need to work through their feelings. I had a feeling early on that I might need a c-section. But I also experienced disappointment. I had a lot of rare complications after the c-section, and I actually have reservations about having another baby just because of the nightmarish hospital stay I had. It was a difficult recovery with a blood transfusion, early problems with breastfeeding, the nurses giving me constant demands, having only four hours of sleep a night (during the four night stay), and needing my blood drawn hour upon hour. It really broke me down, but I have a healthy baby in spite of it all! And my scar reminds me of how strong I was that day and throughout my recovery. <br /><br />Thanks for reading!Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02688719514346028111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-43684673552771407652011-04-12T15:48:52.434-05:002011-04-12T15:48:52.434-05:00I am thankful I didn't have to have a C-Sectio...I am thankful I didn't have to have a C-Section with any of my children but I did have 2 inductions that I didn't want. I have friends who had C-Sections and were not willing to advocate for themselves and their babies. I'm glad that you are spreading awareness about c-sections. Thank you for sharing this and for being such a great advocate for women's health.Summerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02178487941037341576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-75060886652545849952011-04-12T09:49:11.629-05:002011-04-12T09:49:11.629-05:00Thank you so much for writing this!Thank you so much for writing this!Shawnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08656166197748243958noreply@blogger.com