tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post379722568938091540..comments2024-02-25T04:19:51.451-06:00Comments on Connected Mom: The Newest Breastfeeding Acronym: NIFFUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-79795500215359603892010-11-15T02:01:38.831-06:002010-11-15T02:01:38.831-06:00It never occurred to me that anyone in the family ...It never occurred to me that anyone in the family would mind. My own parents took to it fairly easily. My father was used to it; his mother not only nursed his brother, but nursed another woman's baby when that woman went to work. My mother kind of raised her English eyebrows and shrugged. After a while she was converted to breastfeeding because my babies fussed so much less than my sister and I had, didn't spit up (until my third, but she was convinced by then) and were so healthy. However, one time my inlaws were at our apartment and I was nursing. My father in law started to take pictures of my husband and the older children, his wife and the older children. I said, "Take a picture of the baby nursing, I'd really like to have one of that." He said, "I don't do pornography." I was open mouth shocked. Finally I said, "It's not pornography, I am feeding my baby. How can you think that is pornographic?" I guess we compromised; I stayed where I was, and he didn't take a picture. I didn't let it stop me after that, the few times we were together with them. He was full of nasty remarks anyway, such as "Congratulations on your litter." when #5 was born or "At least you are a good incubator." So why should I care what he thought about my nursing? <br /><br />I can honestly say that there wasn't any situation where I would bring a baby where I wouldn't nurse a baby. <br />Susan Petersoneulogoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05307036781446427993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-28572140589718290762010-09-10T16:56:47.553-05:002010-09-10T16:56:47.553-05:00UGH breastfeeding in front of family is SO hard fo...UGH breastfeeding in front of family is SO hard for me. My boyfriends family won't even let me over the house if my shoulders are showing, so when his grandmother from South Carolina started talking about my 'jugs' it was SO weird!!<br /><br />As far as my family goes, I don't know how that will be, they haven't exactly supported me feeding Annabella past a year. No will be the first time they see her 'hanging off the boob' as my nana likes to call it.<br /><br />But I don't mind doing it anywhere else, I have been lucky enough to live in California, so we are pretty open to it here.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05599684110878048288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-50833884737340740172010-09-09T13:43:52.879-05:002010-09-09T13:43:52.879-05:00Hi, Louise!
I'm glad you're enjoying The C...Hi, Louise!<br />I'm glad you're enjoying The Connected Mom-- I think one of our strongest points is that we have quite a few moms contributing about so many different issues!<br /><br />I'm glad you've been able to NIFF with no worries! It's so much easier to have a successful nursing relationship when you are able to nurse whenever & wherever you need to. :o)<br />Hope you visit again soon!<br />-CarmenCarmenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11115015903810903906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-81464652771361199202010-09-09T06:25:51.321-05:002010-09-09T06:25:51.321-05:00I have stumbled across your blog and I love it!
I...I have stumbled across your blog and I love it! <br />I definetly understand where you are coming from! After my son was born we had HUGE problems breastfeeding. I was living overseas from my parents and they came to visit of course...by the time my dad was around I had had my boobs out so often, and so many people had seen them...I was past caring!! :)My family has all been great about my breastfeeding, anywhere and everywhere! Thanks for writing...I am looking forward to checking back here!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-89080380559242248962010-09-06T21:59:24.156-05:002010-09-06T21:59:24.156-05:00Hi, Kat!
You raise some interesting points regardi...Hi, Kat!<br />You raise some interesting points regarding 'the cause' :o) and asking. <br />Come to think of it.. I don't think I've ever asked-- I think I figure if I am comfortable enough to nurse in front of someone, then they're probably/should be/are comfortable with it, too!<br />And as for the cause-- I find it frustrating that people seem to think mom's NIP to prove a point. I didn't leave my house on the war path to NIP (ok, unless I was at a sit in or something) looking for confrontation or to make a profound change in the world. I simply leave my house to run errands/go on a trip/go visit friends or family and do so with the understanding that babies get hungry and I'll probably have to feed mine before the day is done (funny how that works, right?).Carmenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07324804403101206292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-59209982316705758672010-09-05T20:25:41.030-05:002010-09-05T20:25:41.030-05:00Congrats on being a blogger!
Funny, I write this ...Congrats on being a blogger!<br /><br />Funny, I write this from my in-laws', one of the places I feel least comfortable with NIFF. With my first, I tended to nurse unapologetically any time and place. It was a bit wearing on me. With my second child, I find myself asking family if they mind my nursing around them. So far no one has said no, and I feel a lot more comfortable with this approach.<br /><br />In my house it is easier to NIFF, but I still sometimes check in (like with my grandfather's partner, whom I don't know very well yet). And some family members are easier to nurse in front of than others. I've never felt the need to ask my mom, for example, but I don't feel quite comfortable being in the same room as my FIL. I will go to a sitting room that is not isolated, but not generally frequented, either.<br /><br />I feel a bit guilty to "the cause" for even asking in the first place, but then I question what the cause is. In the ideal world, we would all be fine with public breastfeeding anywhere. This clearly is not the case, though, there are Internet fights about "decency" all the time. While I think the decency issue is hogwash, I don't want to antagonize family and ruin an opportunity to maybe change someone's mind by showing them a less confrontational example of breastfeeding. And I do need to take my own comfort into account, I can't always hold "the cause" over everything including me.Kathttp://theendlessday.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-41365770737626519562010-09-04T23:10:32.142-05:002010-09-04T23:10:32.142-05:00Thank you everyone for your kind words!
Cindy- Yo...Thank you everyone for your kind words!<br /><br />Cindy- You most certainly are blessed (in more ways than one)! :o)<br /><br />Jenn- I'm glad you were able to enlighten your mother in law. I don't have a MIL... and yes, it's a mixed blessing! ;o)<br /><br />katastrofik- You're only a few months into the game and to already be tackling your NIFF challanges... well.. kudos to you!! I checked out your blog & not only to I love your daughter's name, but she's adorable and your eye makeup rocks! ;o)<br /><br />Sarah- I cannot imagine mastitis with house guests.. that's like a 'no holds barred' illness-- you'll do whatever you can to even attempt some relief! I'm glad you are not only getting to know your dad, but also that you're still going strong 7 months in with BFing and that L is getting to know your dad, too!<br /><br />Christina- it's taken me 3 kids to get this far, you're still ahead of the curve and there's nothing wrong with a security blanket (literally!) when NIP or NIFF. We shouldn't be expected to cover, but if that's how we feel most comfortable, then we have that choice! :o)Carmenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11115015903810903906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-54655123065749492522010-09-04T21:09:34.805-05:002010-09-04T21:09:34.805-05:00This post made me cry... very sweet about Killian....This post made me cry... very sweet about Killian. I totally have issues with NIFF and friends. I am getting better though. To be honest I haven't quite gotten the hang of NIP either. I still like to have a blanket handy especially now that my little one has become so social (she wants to stop and smile at everyone that walks by).Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00442808694127791056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-14272702024762080432010-09-04T20:41:47.859-05:002010-09-04T20:41:47.859-05:00Totally awesome post Carmen!
I had family at the h...Totally awesome post Carmen!<br />I had family at the house pretty much from the first week of my baby's birth and breast feeding did NOT come easy! My father who I am just only now getting to know was visiting me when Mastitis struck. I remember sitting in the rocking chair feeling like a complete failure holding my baby and he kept encouraging me to try nursing. I had a huge blanket over me and was trying to hide my skin, hold my newborn, and deal with the pain in my breast. <br />I realized then that it was making it so much harder trying to stay hidden and I set the blanket down and nursed my baby.<br /><br />7 months later I just had another visit from my Dad and I comfortably sat across from him, lifted my shirt and latched my baby. Dad just smiled!<br />I've very self conscious around other family but I DO nurse in front of them!!!Sarahhttp://www.facebook.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-40252022547105294122010-09-04T15:43:32.755-05:002010-09-04T15:43:32.755-05:00I'm totally the same! Nursing in front of my ...I'm totally the same! Nursing in front of my dad and step-grandmother has been the hardest. I can nurse anywhere anytime but it's taken me a while to be able to nurse in front of my dad. It's not really a "boob in public" issue for me, it's more that I'm his youngest child (his "baby") and it was the last thing for me to do to fully become an adult. More and more though I'm getting comfortable with it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-82912249649111420822010-09-04T13:38:01.382-05:002010-09-04T13:38:01.382-05:00been there! I've totally changed my MIL's...been there! I've totally changed my MIL's attitude about NIFF. She even bought me a few shirts that would just pull down so I could nurse easily!Jen Albinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15334829308218078837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5218215652328409330.post-52248249310847997572010-09-04T08:19:30.484-05:002010-09-04T08:19:30.484-05:00I never realized how odd this could be for some pe...I never realized how odd this could be for some people. I was so truly blessed to have such an amazing family...and actually everyone around me as well when it came to breastfeeding. Even the other family (her fathers side) were more than amazing about it. Only my brother has even given my trouble about it..and he was told to walk out of the room if there was an issue. <br /><br />Good Topic C!Cindy Byrdnoreply@blogger.com